I am using “we” pretty haphazardly, you’re right, what I’m getting at is that most people hope the content creators they like haven’t gone against their principles in a way they find fundamentally heinous. Most people support the creators they do under the hope that they aren’t sexual harassers, for instance.
I doubt the folks that made fan animations for Car Boys straight-up idolized Nick Robinson, but it still fucking sucked when he turned out to have been an awful person all that time because, even if they didn’t consciously think “i’m pinning my hopes on this guy not being garbage”, they still made that stuff under a belief based on hope for someone they didn’t really know to not be shitty. On a related token, I hope the McElroys haven’t done nor actively support heinous shit like that. That’s not meant to be accusatory nor do I hold them in constant active suspicion, it’s just that I will literally never know them as they are as whole people, so that will indefinitely remain what is technically a hope as I let their content be my idle passtime that passively influences my attitude & volcabulary.
Everyone has different thresholds for when they personally want to disassociate from a person for going against their beliefs, too, but it’s important to try sorting out personal comfort thresholds (i.e, “i hope this person’s politics line up 100% with mine all the time”) from personal principle thresholds (i.e, sexual abusers are irredeemable and you should always disassociate from them).
The distant false intimacy thing, even when it’s mild, is still weird, it’ll never not be weird, but there’s a reason it’s so ubiquitous in so many forms within so many different communities. The point is that it’s worth promoting introspection on how that influence affects people; what they might personally or principally agree or disagree with/what they excuse about & hold against creators, how strongly, and why, rather than only trying to maintain a disconnect with creators and throwing out the idea that people still form small unconscious agreements of trust with what they consume and whom they consume it from. Denial of influence only obscures its presence and its consequence, confronting influence reveals its potential consequence and lets us grow from it in more informed and careful ways.