You are very courageous to share your story and helps build a much more inclusive society.
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This comment made my day. I have only recently come out to my family, and I am from a Mormon family, and I attend BYU. It is very hard to be out here, but thankfully, there are some resources here. I can’t wait to realize my dragon self, haha.
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As a biromantic heterosexual, I definitely wish to offer my congratulations and show all the little solidarity I’m technically allowed.
My coming out to my parents really was just defining to both themselves and myself how I think guys are hot but everything below the belt disagrees. Luckily I’m not the first LGBT+ in the family. Sounds like you definitely had to face a heftier challenge so congrats again on that apparently going smoothly.
Also by the logic of the above post and the one it’s replying to does that mean I get to be a wyvern or some lesser variety of drake?
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I’m three months late but whatever. Hell fuckin’ yeah, @Hoprealm! Congrats!!! (It’s also cool to know your mom’s awesome and super supportive as well!)
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Hey, bisexual guy here! Been out of the closet for about a year and it’s great. I’m glad your mother is supportive of your identity.
Being openly bisexual is tough, and people can be very dismissive of it. But you’ve taken a big step towards yourself and away from fear. I know that for me, being closeted had a lot to do with my anxiety and depression. Just telling the truth was an act of relief.
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This thread is so lovely. Congratulations on coming out, that takes a lot of strength, and I’m really happy to hear your mother is receptive and supportive of you! More and more recently, I’ve started wondering about my own sexuality and if I’m bi as well, and should that day come I can only hope that it goes as well as what you’ve described.
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Congrats. I went off my bipolar meds AND moved out of my parents house AND moved in with roommates I barely knew except from sometimes hanging out with them at lunch during work (coworkers) and yeah I got evicted and went hunched over carrying boxes back to my parents’ house the next day…I maybe got 20 hours of sleep that whole week before I was evicted and I did shove a dog off me but that’s because he bit my face for no reason. I don’t know.
Point I was trying to make is that I felt very strongly that I was genderfluid during that time and for maybe a month after. And I still feel that way during manic episodes or when I get drunk and “buzzed.”
Life is complicated. Life is short. Don’t live a lie. If you are gay, tell everyone. If you are straight, be tolerant and supportive of those who aren’t or who aren’t ready to say they aren’t. Always be an ally no matter their race, gender identity, amount of time you’ve known them, etc.
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I… what? I don’t get that point from ANYTHING in your first paragraph.
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cishet guy here so you know, pinch of salt but… but maybe not the best advice in every circumstance. stay safe and use your best judgement friends.
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Yeah right? The worst part was swallowing my pride and calling my parents to ask them to help me move everything back…when it HAD been in their house just a week before. My dad always says stuff like “This won’t work” or “This is a bad idea” every time I want to do something SLIGHTLY risky that he doesn’t like. It sucked…haha
This is up at the top of the forum despite the last reply time, but I thought I would take this spot to say I came out to my mother recently as both non-binary and bi (pan?, but also I prefer the sound of bi??) and as rough as it was, I’m super glad to have it out in the world outside of text online
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This periodically seems to float to the top of the site which is maybe a tacit encouragement to be more open but, yeah, I came out as bi to all my mates recently. Still haven’t with my fam cause my ma’s weird about it but I’ll probably let her know eventually.
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Hey, I know it been a while! ^^ This Thread is the reason that my mood has been excellent. Thank you !
I have a update for you!
I have come out to all my family and my friend. No one rejected me and I feel so grateful. I’m actually dating someone at the moment and i love him with all my hearts.
My Grandma was especially kind to me.
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Good dear. Nothing is better than truth.It hurt sometimes but after sometime it will give relief to everyone.
Have tried to come out as bi in the past before but kind of scared myself back in to the closet for various reasons. I feel like I want to come out officially but I’m also worried that I’ll be seen as less valid because I tried to in the past. I’m a trans woman who identified as a lesbian before this but have found my attraction to guys growing in the last year or so of my transition. I don’t really know what to do 'cause as I said before, I’m worried that I’ll just be seen as less valid for hesitating in the past.
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You should definitely come out when you feel ready to. You have time to figure things out, so there is no rush.
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Guees who said yes to a proposal ? ^^
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Congratulations! You are very brave, I am bisexual as well but I have not told my parents, I hope I be like you one day and have the courage to tell them.
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Im in such a bad place cos I wanna tell my mum that im bi but im completely unsure how she’ll react. we have such a close bond that im afraid ill ruin it, especially since she has said multiple negative things about being any kind of gay in the past. honestly I couldn’t even tell u if im completely bi or lesbian or straight. ive kissed girls in the past but never guys and I just don’t even know whats going on in my head anymore. like I don’t even know whether I should come out to any of my friends either because ive said mean things about some people to try and hide my sexuality in the past so now I am so lost. ahhhh. if anyone would like to offer me their imput, I would be partial to it hahaha
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If your mother has said negative things about queer folks, you might not want to tell her, especially if you think that your mother will kick you out of the house. Your safety and well being should be the number one concern for you, in my opinion. I also think that it is totally fine to not fully know your sexual orientation. I feel that things like who you are attracted to can change over the span of your life, so you don’t need to ever have a definitive answer on that question. Regarding your friends, I would explain to them that you said these mean things because you were trying to hide your sexual orientation if you think that the person you are talking to would understand your point of view and be willing to listen to you.
