Hope this is the right category, but this is a question that has been on my mind a LOT lately and I’m really struggling to really work it out. Apologies if this is not the right forum or place for this, couldn’t think of a better one!
I’ve had several instances recently of good friends in my tabletop groups, revealing rather troublesome opinions. One dude has revealed his complete and utter ignorance when it comes to race, and my D&D DM was venting about a player in his other group ‘shoehorning her agenda’ into the game by playing a character with a neutral pronoun. Now I’ve challenged these dudes both times on these views but generally not really gotten anywhere.
But anyway the question I’m posing, is how have you handled when people in your friend circle who you know well reveal troublesome views, and importantly, where do you draw the line? Obviously It’s important that their is a line where people simply aren’t worth your energy any more, no one should be friends with actual Nazis. Is it a question of, do I think I can make progress with this person? On the other hand of course, you don’t want it to descend into both sides-ism / “civility”. Fuck people who don’t understand pretty simple concepts about being a decent person. As I become more and more politically aware I’ve been finding it harder and harder to ignore these kind of things.
There’s a real fascinating article about Derek Black, (google The White Flight of Derek Black) the son of the guy who ran Stormfront and how he was de-radicalized by essentially a group of students inviting him to dinners, building a relationship with him so that they had the trust basis on which to challenge his views, which eventually led to him renouncing it all completely and becoming very left-wing. I keep thinking about that one.
This might be a bit rambly, but what’s people’s takes on this issue? Any personal experiences like this?