sorry for shitposting in the thread everybody. the real answer i have is “you should be the best person you can be, but keep in mind your ability to actually change the world is proportional to the actual level of power you hold.”
capitalism wants us all to feel individually culpable for every social ill when they are actually collective problems which can only be ‘solved’ by collective action, and the people who hold most of the power in our society actively make it hard to solve these problems. capitalism wants us to feel individually culpable because that engenders a huge sense of insecurity and frustration at our inability to individually solve (say) climate change, and those feelings can then be Monetised. $$$$
do your best, but if you are being selfish and not doing your best, accept that. do not try to justify it, because down that road leads justifying ever more awful things.
sometimes we do not live our best lives and accepting ourselves as flawed and complex beings is a part of Being Alive. try to do more and be better every day if you can. i believe in you, forums user metalsnakezero.