Yeah, it just feels like an argument/preference/position I could see coming from places I vehemently disagree with. Stances taken along the lines of "hey, the character is x/y/z, stop making everybody gay!" Which is why I tend to recoil from voicing it? (Also, a lack of forum I cared to interact with helped a bit too I suppose.)
I think what helped me accept that as a favorite personally was that the romance line exists in a world where, at the very least, there ARE gay romance options. It didn't feel like exclusion, as much as it felt like character? I guess? I dunno, still clearly grappling with it on some level.