That’s one of the reasons I wrote off D&D 5e, unfortunately the RPG world is full of toxic people. I don’t bother with D&D or New White Wold anymore. However, Onyx Path seems to be going strong and not involved with such people (as far as I’ve heard at least). For new players, I generally recommend Hunter (any version) since part of the point of that game is the characters don’t know what’s going on the game acts as a great introduction to the world of…World/Chronicles of Darkness.
I also recently picked up 7th Sea 2e and the way it frames player actions as narratives is a fantastic way to get into a more role-playing mode rather than your typical roll-playing mode of D20 games.