I agree that it is a terrible way to start the conversation in the NBA community, this entire issue seems like a massive minefield. There’s a thread in the NBA subreddit, apparently the accuser made similar accusations in 2016 about Playboi Carti, including fabricated texts and DM’s. Not saying this is the case here, but I hope it doesn’t prevent the league or anyone else from doing their due diligence and investigating everything.
I feel like the league and NBA community handled Jason Collins coming out fairly well. Granted, he wasn’t a player with the same profile as Dwight Howard, and he came out after he was done playing. As far as the media goes though, there are very few national media members I would trust to report on this with tact and in a level-headed manner (Jackie MacMullan, David Aldridge, and Kate Fagan all spring to mind).
It’s a conversation that’s going to have to be started at some point, across all leagues. Michael Sam’s sexual orientation seemed to be a side-show to the NFL and its fanbase instead of starting to normalize gay male athletes in professional sports. I feel like the acceptance and normalization will have to start at the professional level before there’s any type of trickle-down effect at the college, high school, and youth league levels.